Shure MV7-1: [00:00:00] Time is the one currency that once you spend it, it's gone and you cannot get it back yet. So often we find ourselves feeling like we have little to no time for ourselves or the things that we value or what matters most I've been there. And I'll be honest. Last year was kind of an insane year for me.

Like we took on so many travel weddings. We spent more time living on the road than we did at our own house, which by the way we moved last year. And so here we are just bought this house and didn't even get to enjoy it and got to this place of burnout and need for rest.

And I knew that something needed to change. So after evaluating everything and really intentionally planning for this year. I decided that I was going to take the month of July off from weddings and shooting and essentially put together a sabbatical for myself. So yes, July is the thick of wedding season for those of you who are photographers.

And I did it. So I'm going to be debriefing and telling you all the ins and outs on what my sabbatical was like, what my key takeaways are and all the things.

Shure MV7-8: And if you stick with us till the end, I've got a really exciting announcement that I cannot wait to share. And so [00:01:00] please stick with us and

Shure MV7-1: we're going to dive in.

Shure MV7-3: Okay. I just want to say it feels so good to be back recording episodes and just like talking about life and business and all the things you guys, because if there's one thing that I learned in this, like a whole sabbatical, which I'm sure I'm going to say a lot of things I've learned in this episode, but like, Man.

I love my job. I love what I get to do. I love showing up and just being a part of this community, creating space and all of that. So I just want you guys to know first and foremost that, um, yes that is like one of my favorite things. So [00:02:00] leading up to my sabbatical. As you know, I kind of had like a really insane year last year.

Like everyone would just come up to me and be like, man, you're so busy. You're traveling all the places. You're doing all the things. And I got complimented for my business, but deep down, I was just feeling sick to my stomach. I was not feeling myself. And I was feeling burnt out. Like. Man who is that girl?

Because I see all these photos of the places I'd go and the things I was doing, the weddings I was shooting, and yes, I loved all of them, but at the same time, because I was stretched so thin, I was not taking care of myself. And I was just not showing up for myself, you know, like I was showing up for everyone else and doing all these things and really hustling.

And I think hustle culture gets way too much of like praise than it deserves because at the end of the day, time is the one currency that once you spend it, you can't get it back. And yet. Like I was feeling like, man, I I'm I'm feel like I'm doing all the right things, but deep down, I just kind of felt this void.

And so the need to slow down was there. And that's really like what led me into this decision to take the month of July off of weddings. And last year I like went to my calendar, blocked it off. And I was like, yep, I'm taking the [00:03:00] month of July off. I need this. I need to enjoy summer. I need to be able to have time for friends and family and more than just work because. Too much of a really good thing, actually.

Isn't good. Right. Like, you need to have balance in life. You need to be able to create space for the things that matter. And ultimately, I just, wasn't doing that to the capacity that I needed. And maybe it's because I'm in my thirties and maybe I'm just like, not as young as I was when I was in my twenties and building this business from the ground up.

But I can say this, that I really do love my job. And I really think that my job is best when I show up in the best capacity that I can. And so just leading up to my sabbatical, I'm going to kind of share a little bit like what happened there, but, , it was planned last year and I blocked it off. I have a whole episode about like what I did to prepare, but essentially I blocked off the full month.

Didn't take on any weddings, kind of let all of my clients know ahead of time that I'm not going to be doing any additional shoots during the month of July. And so I protected my time from that standpoint, I also hired an assistant and train them in on some miscellaneous tasks. So I was able to delegate some work. And [00:04:00] essentially worked from like producing the podcast, things like that.

Like I prerecorded everything, everything was planned out and it was awesome. , and I automated what I could. So there's so much you could do with automating your business things that I wasn't doing, but having the sabbatical and really trying to like protect this time, like really got me to a place.

I was like, okay, I need to like automate what I can or simplify things and just make it easy on myself. So that was everything that I could take off my plate. I did. In terms of like things that were demanding my time now that wasn't meaning, oh, I'm not going to work, or I'm not going to touch anything.

Some people are more strict with their sabbaticals, but like at the end of the day, when I, when my clients are emailing me, because their weddings in a couple of weeks, like I'm not going to not respond or if I need to meet with potential inquiries, because people want to book me for their wedding. Obviously, I'm not going to just neglect that, but I did have boundaries in place.

So I had days and times where I was checking my emails. And then I also had, you know, evenings where I would say this would be a time where I could connect with a client or a potential inquiry. , but beyond that, I was very much trying to, , just take everything one week at a time and not like over commit myself in [00:05:00] advance and just like really see what my body needs and kind of on that topic too.

So like literally two weeks before I started this sabbatical. So this was in June. I actually. I had some health complications. And basically I had this like really intense pain in my side. And I was like, oh no. Like I called my sister who was a nurse. I was like, what is this? And she kind of told me a bunch of things that could be.

And she was like, honestly, like if I was professionally talking to you, I'd tell you, you need to go to the ER right now. But as your sister, I think you can maybe wait, why don't you go in tomorrow? See what it is. So I went in and got it checked. We thought it might be my appendix. , thankfully it wasn't because I didn't, I didn't have like anything rupture or any infections or anything like that, but, , they did do some tests and some ultrasound and I do have like a large ovarian cyst, um, which. Is not fun.

It was very painful, even just like walking was really painful. And so that was kind of a wrench that was thrown in the mix. Uh, that I was not expecting, but I [00:06:00] kind of had this moment of like, man, God knew that I would need this time to arrest and take time to heal. And all of this, not only for like my mental space, which was the biggest reason I took this sabbatical, but also physically too.

Shure MV7-9: And so I'm still in contact with doctors. I still have more appointments to come. They're just going to evaluate things. It is a very large system. So the hope is that it will go down on its own and I won't need surgery, but there is a chance I do. And they also need a deep dive into if this is a symptom of a larger diagnosis and all the things.

And so we're still like in that process. So. Honestly, having this time and space to like process all of this and like rest and all of that was really much needed.

Shure MV7-3: . And I guess my body was telling me that I needed that too.

So that really put a wrench in things though, too, because the one thing, the one thing I did have on my calendar for this month was a triathlon, which at the time of recording, this is actually going to be in two days, I'm at the, it's like the very end of the month. And so my plan is to still go through it.

I didn't train as much as I wanted, but I've just been listening to my body. And, [00:07:00] um, I know I'm not probably going to drown during the swimming. If I do well, these will be my last words, I guess, but, , I'm just going to take it one day at a time, I'm going to try.

Um, and that's what we're going to do. So anyway, Just a fun fact about that. So leading up to my sabbatical, like just kind of had that in the mix, but like looking back like the first week, honestly, I basically like laid in bed and like heated my stomach and just slept in and felt super lazy because I, my body just like needed it. Like I had worked through a wedding and you know, that song from Taylor Swift's new album.

Like I can do it with a broken heart. I was like, thinking about it, like, man, like in this. It is industry. So often you just have to like do all this extra stuff. And like your clients have no idea that you're showing up to their wedding with like this massive cyst and you can barely walk without pain.

Like, man, like I was just like, man, I'm like doing this with a broken body. I dunno. So sabbatical came at a really good time and I just like needed that time to heal. And overall, like other than that, I would say like what I loved [00:08:00] about my sabbatical most, not only just having the time I needed to heal, but also just like time to process life.

So people would keep asking me like, oh my gosh, how's your sabbatical? How's this going? And I almost had this like, moment of like, Sometimes forget that I was on sabbatical and like, forget about just like what was going on, because I didn't actually have a specific plan for it, which is a pro and a con.

Right. Like, and I'll get into that. But essentially I loved that. I just like took everything off my plate. So that then there was no specific obligations. Like you have to go to this wedding on this weekend, or you have to meet with this client, or you have to do this. And I already had all of my podcast episodes, prerecorded, so I didn't have anything I had to show up for, like in terms of my calendar, I had a pretty blank slate. And that was really good.

Again, I needed a lot of rest at that beginning, like half of it, and then, you know, Honestly at the later part of it too, I just kind of felt like this really like this desire to create and all of this stuff. But once I took everything off my plate, For this month, it's gotten me thinking [00:09:00] through like, okay.

Intentionally, like what has been life-giving and what am I gravitated towards? So in that I was able to like work through and be inspired by like, what am I actually like, excited and looking forward to working on what do I, what do I actually enjoy doing? And one of my, like neglecting in my business and places that I would rather be spending my time.

And so I was able to do some shifting and rearranging and really thinking through, okay, like in terms of my routines, what do I need to be focusing on? And what do I need to be taking off my plate? I've found that I have too many meetings going on. I think I've committed to like too many days and too many meetings, too many things that are like spread out over the course of time versus like doing thing in batches.

And so one thing that I'm going to be going into. , as I come back from sabbatical is like really focusing on like batching and what a rhythm of batch work looks like for me.

Shure MV7-4: I'm really excited to just like, be more effective with it, be more efficient. And I've been doing like some Fordham forms of batch working, but it's just not been working. And [00:10:00] also just overall, I've been like cluttering my time and everything with just like way too many things like too much of a good thing is not good. And so, like I said before, just like taking everything off my plate has given me a lot more clarity on like what I want to put back on it and like, what do I want to keep off?

Shure MV7-5: And just kind of like going off of that analogy of like too much of a good thing is so like for me, I used to be a distance runner. I'll use this example and I ran throughout high school and college. So like every MD. and you can imagine how many miles I put on my body just by running distance. Like, there'd be days where we're running like 10 miles.

I'm like a Saturday. And then, you know, throughout the week we're adding another, you know, 50 miles or whatever. I don't know. I it's been so long, but man, the miles were there and I was spending way too much time running. And what I found is like over the time of all the course of my life and maybe it's cause I'm in my thirties now.

I don't know. But like, man, I've got like knee problems and hip problems and. My feet hurt. And I'm just like, I feel like my body and my joints are just like, not what they used to be. And [00:11:00] recently, if you guys know, like I started doing CrossFit, so this is like been a recent development over this year of like joining a CrossFit gym close by and like showing up multiple times a week and so for me, even though I'm not like running as much as I used to. And like, as far as I used to, I feel so much stronger as a person because I'm actually training. My arms and I'm actually like training more than just running, but I'm also learning how to like lift more and I'm engaging my core and like all these different things and movements.

And like, my body is able to do way more than it was able to prior when I was just running. Right. Like I tried. Doing some squats. And so we were doing back squats last week and. I got a PR like I was able to lift 105. I tried doing 110 and fell completely over. It was kind of funny. Um, but no, like I looked at that, I was like, wow.

Like I, I know for most people back squatting a hundred pounds, maybe that maybe that's easy. Maybe it's not, I know nothing, [00:12:00] but for me that was like something I never thought I would be able to do, like to be able to like lift a hundred pounds. Like for me, if you know my arms, they're very small.

I was not gifted with big arms. Okay. But I did have long legs and I've always been really good at running. And because that was natural for me. I just always ran and relied on my natural ability to do that, but never really challenged myself to grow in other areas. And so for me, it relating that back to business.

One thing I learned about myself is just like, in terms of spending time, like, I absolutely love working. I love my job. I love all of this, but I really struggle with like turning off the switch and actually like learning to like focus on other areas of my life, like in prioritize other things. And I just like, look at the trajectory of my life and. Don't get me wrong.

I absolutely love my dad. Like, I'm so thankful for just like the life I was able to grow up with. And like all the things like we, Sears are so thankful for this, but it is really hard for him to like stop working and be present at home and like be there for us. And like, he missed out on so many of my soccer games and my races when I was in cross country and [00:13:00] track.

And like, in a lot of ways, it's like, man, I just like wish I had that time with him. And I'm seeing a lot of myself in him and I'm seeing like, man, like I have his work. Ethic. I like really do value, like customer service and this and that. And like, I see all of my strengths in there, but I'm also realizing like, man, but too much of a good thing. Can actually be a net negative in some ways, and like, cause more harm than good in like your relationships and things like that.

And so I'm realizing that about myself. And so for me, the sabbatical was just so great for me to just like do a full audit on like, where do I always hit the ground running? And then what are the other places where I'm like, maybe I need to do some more strength training or more spend some more time, like on these things.

And so for me, I've realized, like I say yes to so many things. Right. But every time I say yes to those things, I'm saying no to other things that I maybe should be, prioritizing, but maybe I'm just not.

. And I need to be saying yes to myself and my time. And I also need to be showing up in the best capacity that I can. And my mental health has taken kind of a toll. , and it's been like such [00:14:00] a journey and in some ways I'm like, oh man, it's better than it's ever been.

But every once in a while you get hit with like, okay, wait, maybe I need to evaluate this because. I'm having a panic attack or like I'm starting to feel a little anxious or uneasy about things like where's that coming from and just doing an audit and figuring out like, okay, why do I feel this way? And for me, I'm learning that like, I care so deeply about what other people think and pleasing others and not disappointing others that like, I will give up my time to please others versus actually showing up in good capacity and like doing self for myself.

And so I've had to do a really big audit on like, what am I saying yes to who am I saying yes to what am I spending my time doing? And just making sure that it's in alignment with like what I actually need,. Because I say yes to some things I have to say no to others. And like for me, I've had to say no to my family.

I've had to say no to my marriage. I've had to say no to. Like things that I should not be saying no [00:15:00] to, and that is not then something that I'm proud of. And so for me, as I'm like going through and just thinking overall, the analogy of like balance and like working on all the areas and like, not just focusing on one thing. Really making sure that I'm saying yes to the right things is so important.

And so going into a, coming back from sabbatical, that has been like a huge thing for me.

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And I've learned just like so many other things about myself, like I've learned to just like. Man, like, I really do value having like space on weekends where nothing is planned. I also started implementing and just like being a lot more intentional about having the Sabbath, like just for me, like actually having a day of rest.

Like, I don't believe we were created to work seven days a week. Right. Like even God needed a day of rest himself. And so just thinking through like, man, like I'm not above God, so why do I think I can work seven days a week when like, even he didn't do that. Right. And so just like looking at the examples in my life of like who I want to be more like and how I want to show up and how I can best do that. Like man, I was like [00:16:00] created to take a day of rest and that's like a gift. Like, that's something that I need to be like, Really good about. And so , because of the sabbatical, I've actually been able to feel a lot better about that and like going forward, I don't want to put so much back onto my plate where I can't continue doing that.

And so that has been huge for me. , and then I guess in terms of like, what would I do differently when it comes to sabbatical? I feel like there's a lot of things, but, I think this was a great trial run overall. I think it was successful. I think going back to like, I had some health issues I had to like work through, I needed time and space to rest and reflect. Correct.

And just like, really figure out, like, what does balance look like and how do I want to show up? Like, there's just a lot there. , and I think in the next sabbatical, I think I'm going to plan things a little differently in terms of like, okay, is there a specific, like a couple of books I want to read or are there specific projects I want to work on?

Like, I have things that I've like wanted to work on. But just never had time to, and it was very like, just as long list of things, but. I think for me, what would be more beneficial is like, maybe I just have like one [00:17:00] specific project where it's like, okay, here's a project that I've really wanted to work on.

And I need to just like focus on that one thing and all the other things can live there. But if I just have like show up in each day, I have my one thing that I'm going to like kind of give time and attention to, or however many days I want to do, whether it's like one day a week, I'm working on this.

And then I have a day of rest and I have a day to create like, Something of that, but I think just giving myself more of like this vision for the sabbatical will be really good, just because of what I learned about myself in this one. I've just, I am a little restless and I am a little like scatterbrained and I do say yes to so many things.

And I think for me, with the first two weeks of my sabbatical, like kind of out the drain with just like my health stuff, I felt like almost like, oh, maybe I need to like, do more of this in this. And, um, just that mindset too, that I had. Of like having this like expectation on myself of like pressure I was putting on myself just like, wasn't fair.

Like I remember there was a day, Luke felt a two, like it was a weekend. [00:18:00] And I know I had been taking some time off just with like, My health. And like, we were both feeling like super, like, I don't know why, but we felt like, oh wow, we have to do these things. These things, these things. And I like stopped and looked at him.

I was like, listen, like I didn't block off this whole month just to like, have us have a Saturday where we're stressed about stuff that like, ultimately can wait. This isn't urgent. This is not a client deliverable. This is not something where if we don't do it today, it's going to completely blow up in our faces.

So why can't we give ourselves this time right now to actually enjoy this beautiful summer day? The sun is shining. The weather's gorgeous. We can go to the lake. We can go on our kayak. We can enjoy like of mourning together. Like. Why are we putting this pressure on ourselves? And I think that was a huge, just like eyeopening thing for me of just realizing how much we don't do that.

And so what I'm really looking forward to, it's just like this new rhythm we're finding and we're still getting into it. And just like in future sabbaticals, just making sure to set [00:19:00] a clear boundary of like, Hey, there is no pressure you can like completely just rest and. At the end of this, all you feel is just like rested and ready to go for whatever's next, like that is successful.

Shure MV7-11: So if you're listening to this and you're thinking, man, I would love to have some sort of time like this, like sabbatical or time to reflect and rest and just think through all that. First of all, you need to be intentional. And I want to tell you this, because this isn't going to just happen. You have to create that space.

It will not just happen your time. And your schedule will be filled with things. So just really think ahead now and think through, okay, what do I need that to look like? And when can I make space for this?

So whether you want to look at next year and what you want to do in terms of your bookings, and if you want to block any time off, now's a great time to go in and block that off. And if you're thinking, okay, I also want to really incorporate a good rhythm of rest, and I really want to also do this with community.

We've got actually something really exciting that I'm excited to announce for the first time we are launching the. Take your shot. Retreat and workshop, which is going to be happening [00:20:00] the second week of January. So if you will want details, if you want to get on the list, you want to get all the things, use the link in the show notes, because when we launch, I don't want you to miss that.

So depending on when you're listening to this, you can either get on the wait list or you can apply to be a part of it. All the details will be there, but we are seriously so excited and it's going to be awesome. Ever since the last retreat we've been thinking through, okay, what do we want to do the next one?

And I'll be honest. I have not had capacity to think about or process or really intentionally think. Through that until, of course, during my sabbatical, that was one of the amazing things I got to process and think about. And you guys, I'm so excited, it's going to be better than ever. And we just can't wait to be in the room with people to really dive deeper and think through, okay, how can we all be more intentional in our businesses?

And like, as we're setting things up and like really looking into 2025, I think January is the perfect time to do something like this because. This is a time where you can actually like plan ahead and like set the pace for the year. Don't let the year just go by without having an intentional plan in place.

And we're really excited. So there's gonna be a lot of options. It's gonna be a lot of things that go into [00:21:00] it. Stay connected, follow us on, take your shot, collective on Instagram, and we will definitely keep you updated on all the things, but it's going to be amazing. And I would love to see you there in the room, getting that space that you need for your business and living a more intentional life.

Shure MV7-12: So with that. Thank you so much for just listening to this episode of the, take your shot podcast. It's not something I take for granted or lightly the fact that you're spending time, just like. Hanging out with me today. And so thank you. And it would mean the world to me. If you could leave us a review, subscribe on whatever channel you're listening on and go above and beyond.

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And so thank you so much for tuning in today and we'll see you next week.

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